#24: Orange County & LA

My time in Yorba Linda in Orange County was extended a bit longer than I had planned. No complaints here, though. That just meant more time with my friend Rich, his wife Jackie, and their twin daughter and son, Caitlin and Gavin. Amongst the COVID precautions, we were able to make a quick little afternoon getaway to Laguna Beach and get some local hikes in.

The rest of the time was spent simply hanging with them – swimming in the pool, helping home school the kiddos and enjoying family dinners. Rich is a friend from elementary school, so to be able to visit with him and his family and fold into their life for a short time was so special. Rich is in an EMBA program at USC, so I got to sit in on a few of his classes since he was taking them online. Oh! Also, it was in Yorba Linda when I also participated in my first-ever protest. What an experience.

While in SoCal, I spent a weekend with my dear friend from New York, Tahleen. She gave me a tour of her new neighborhood in LA (Redondo Beach area), we ordered takeout – it was like no time had passed since we last saw each other. She also took me to a stunning hidden gem of a neighborhood called Palos Verdes (or “PV” as the locals call it) – known as the Amalfi Coast of the area. It’s a beautiful residential town on a hill off of the ocean – like the Amalfi Coast.

A bit of “housekeeping” was done in SoCal as well. After leaving Texas, I had a few things that needed to be checked on my car. I made an appointment at a local VW dealer in the area as soon as I arrived in town. After the mechanics took a look, I was informed that it needed an entirely new fuel tank (long story). By the time the part came in, and they took the entire back end of the car apart to install the new tank, the car was in the shop for a whole week. My Certified Pre-owned Warranty covered all, so all I lost was some time. 

Then, one day I drove up the street to purchase a birthday card for my nephew. The store was only a mile away from Rich and Jackie’s house. All of a sudden, my gas pedal wouldn’t accelerate the car. I pulled over to the safest place I could and called for a tow - right back to the dealer from which it had just come. It was scary. Per Rich’s recommendation, I used my YETI cooler as a pseudo cone because my car was right around a corner where other vehicles were turning. I just sat and waited for the tow truck. Later I learned that something was loose from where they had taken the car apart to install the new fuel tank. 

Of course, my mind immediately went to, “Well, I guess I’m not leaving for San Diego on Thursday.” (The car thing happened on Tuesday). But I did not overreact. I remained calm. Hell, after sheltering in place for two months, my grand plan was already shot. Anything that happens after that is not part of the plan anyway! As luck would have it, I got the car back the next day and was able to leave for San Diego that Thursday, as planned.

#3: Shenandoah National Park

I spent Veteran’s Day weekend at Shenandoah National Park in Virginia. This was the first stop on my journey, and to be honest, it tested me a little. It was filled with ups and downs but through it all, I challenged myself to go with the flow…which is all I could possibly do!

I decided a collection of lists would be a good way to communicate the major highlights.

Things I realized:

• Expect the unexpected. Two of the four nights I was there, temperatures dropped under 20 degrees Fahrenheit. I kept warm by layering and getting under down and wool blankets, but utilizing the heat may have drained my trailer battery faster than planned (more to come on this).

• It’s okay to disconnect. I didn’t have wifi or cell signal at the campground. I had to drive to a specific location in order to communicate with the outside world. Yes, it was a little stressful for various reasons, but at night it was rather nice to write, read and just “be” without any distractions.

• All will be fine. The weekend had its fair share of hiccups, for sure. However, part of my journey is learning to let things go and realizing that I can’t control everything, all the time. I make the best decisions that I can with the facts I have at that moment and that is all I can do. There is a quote/saying/phrase I have really adopted over the last few years:

  10% is what happens to me, and 90% is how I react to it.

  It is so, so, so, so true!

Things that surprised me:

• People are good. When my trailer wasn’t level, a man came out in the freezing rain to ensure my set up was safe. When I couldn’t successfully back the trailer into a campsite, my campground host, Alan, was literally helping me before I even had the chance to ask. A man named Dave was on the ground with his electrical meter checking the wiring of the 7-way outlet (outlet on the back of a towing vehicle that the trailer plugs into to connect lights and other electric when towing). My site neighbors had extra firewood and left it next to my fire pit when they left a day early. When the battery of my trailer died, I had people lined up presenting various solutions from which to choose. We hear so many stories of people acting poorly to each other (especially these days), but I was reminded that there are kind-hearted people out there…and a lot of them reside in campgrounds!

• Park showers are legit! I was picturing the worst, but the $1.75 shower I took on the last night was incredible. I had pressurized hot water for an entire five minutes in a clean, well-lit bathroom (I still wore flip flops, but that’s just a no-brainer).

• Bears are no joke. When the signs say to watch out for bears, they mean it. Day One, Addie and I set out on an afternoon hike and about 15 minutes into the trail, we spotted a small black bear staring at us from about 50 feet away. I thought I was hallucinating. My heart pounded, and we promptly turned right around and swiftly headed back to the trailhead. We didn’t get very far on the hike, and I was too scared to take any photos of the bear, but I did get some majestic shots of Addie (note to self: purchase bear spray, STAT).

Things I learned:

• Be aware of the Airstream battery voltage. I should have checked the voltage before I left for the park and also when I arrived. I went into the weekend assuming I had a fully-charged battery after driving with it hooked up to my car. The battery drained after the second night, but I am not sure how charged it was in the first place. The battery dying could have been for a few different reasons: 1) the car didn’t charge it while driving, 2) I left my dad’s house without a full battery, or 3) something is not right with the batteries. I’m urgently working on determining the cause so this doesn’t happen again!

• Have kindling handy. The park sold firewood, which I purchased, but I really needed kindling to get the fire roaring. Or, keep my axe handy to further chop up the large pieces of firewood into kindling (my axe is currently stored in an under-bench compartment which my bed is currently on top of…).

• Check the maps (thoroughly) on hikes. My friend Lauren and I looked at the maps at the start of the trails we hiked, but sometimes the trails turn and fork when you don’t expect. Often times, if the trail is a loop, it may be named something different for part of the loop as it connects with another trail. It’s just wise to have a resource while you’re hiking. We had planned a three mile hike, but we ended up doing a seven mile hike! When I did have mobile service, I used the AllTrails app which is really helpful.

Things I will NOT do next time:

• Dirty a lot of dishes. The more dishes used, the more to wash. And washing them is a small pain in the butt. As I’m still getting familiar with my Airstream, I didn’t want to use up my water supply, so I washed dishes outside from a water spigot. But you can’t just let your wastewater run off into the grass…the water contains food and soap remnants. You have to use a wash basin and dump the run off into the toilet in the campground restroom. Since it was so cold, my hands were numb after washing in the cold water. It was just annoying (but I understand very necessary to preserve the natural environment).

• Plug my destination into Waze and assume it’s leading me to the accurate location. This was an obvious mistake and I should have known better. I entered the name of the campground into my GPS and it led me down a fire road. I twisted and turned and the path became less and less “managed'“ as it continued. Fortunately, I put two and two together (and actually got four!), realized something wasn’t right and (thankfully) found a place to turn around with the trailer to head back to the main road.

The start of the fire road. I snapped a photo because I just thought it was pretty.

• Choose a campsite that “looks” the best. No judging books by the cover anymore. When I first arrived, I drove around the campground loop about eight times to find a “good” spot. I wanted seclusion, trees around me, maybe a view of some sort. Well, I found a good one and it happened to be the most uneven site in the campground (so I was told after unhitching there). This just made things way more challenging…in the freezing cold and rain. I had to get the trailer level by placing 2x4 pieces of wood my dad gave me (I didn’t have leveling blocks which would have been helpful) under one tire. Getting the trailer level is important - for balance and the obvious things, but also for the inner workings of the trailer. I moved sites the next morning because being lopsided was not only really bothering me, but it was also not healthy for the trailer. Sometimes the things you can’t see are the things that matter most.

Things I will do again:

• Get up to see a sunrise. Spectacular. Especially when you meet a nice man from Korea taking photos on the same overlook and he snaps a few of you and emails them to you later.

• Have a friend join me. My childhood friend, Lauren, joined me for a few days. What a breath of fresh air. Not only did she bring her dog Mazie, delicious California wine and dinner ingredients and the vessel to cook it in (Instant Pot - which I highly recommend) (oh, and she rented generator in case power was a challenge), but she also brought her “we’ll figure it out” attitude, friendliness to those around us (very contagious) and loving support for both Addie and me as we kicked off this adventure.

• Accept help from others. I first learned this on my Kilimanjaro climb. There is no shame in accepting help. And there is no shame in asking for it. For some of us, it’s very hard to do, though. I can confidently say that if I didn’t ask for, and accept, help from others this past weekend, it would have ended much differently. By accepting help, not only did I get my issues resolved less painfully, but I also got to meet, converse with and learn from interesting people. That’s. What. This. Is. All. About. Oh, remember I mentioned the campground host, Alan? I may meet up with him and his wife in Key West. And Dave - he and his wife live in Tennessee and he gave me his card in case I’m passing through and need anything. I’m telling you, campground people are good!

Update post-Shenendoah

Mercury in retrograde is no joke. After my Airstream battery drained so fast, understanding why is crucial to preventing it from happening again. I need to be prepared to run primarily off my battery because more often than not, I won’t have an electrical hook up. I left Shenendoah and headed to the closest safe parking lot (it happened to be a Target…there is always a need for an incremental Target run!) to sort out my best course of action. After five hours of calling Volkswagen dealers in a two-hour radius for a service appointment in the next few days, checking all fuses to ensure it wasn’t a quick fuse fix and speaking to the VW dealership where I purchased my car, I came up with a viable plan. Since the earliest appointment I could get was in the Richmond area and the forecasted temperatures were dropping to record lows, I headed back to my dad’s house in Richmond to get this issue resolved before continuing any farther. Although I desperately wanted to head in the direction of my next destination, there is no need to make this more complicated than it has to be. I need to be safe and smart.

More to come in the next few days…